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Dealing With Shame Means Naming, Facing And Repairing

Shame is the deepest of all emotions and has the ability to overwhelm those who acquire it. When we feel shame, we tend to feel alone...

Take A Moment To Be Mindful

We spend much of our time in our heads, thinking about the past or worrying about the future. We interact with others and feel triggered and we are often tied to past events and relationships in our mind...

Codependency: Give It Time Before A New Relationship

Many codependent people find it difficult to be alone. They live in the constant fantasy that they need to be with someone (anyone) to feel ok about themselves. It is in this fantasy that they can best play out their codependent symptoms of trying to fix others...

Codependency: Change The Template Of Your Life!

It’s never easy to carry the burden of your childhood, your somewhat dysfunctional connection to the imperfect people we grew up with, and finally come to the realization as an adult that it has affected our whole life...

Emotional Honesty, Intimacy and Connection. Added Elements Of Relationship Success

Relationship success is something that many of us strive for. Sometimes, this elusive "Holy Grail" escapes all but the very few. I have written here before about the Four Pillars of a functional relationship and how that is the basis if the relationship is to sustain itself long-term.

What Is Counter-dependency?

Many of my recent posts have delved into some of the root causes of codependency and how developmental trauma plays a major role. This puts parenting (or the lack of…

Fantasy Will Keep The Worst Of Relationships Going

How many of us have been in relationships we just know are going nowhere but we hang on untill the bitter end?...

Challenge Your Self-Talk Or Stay Stuck

It's called self-talk, emotional traffic, inner conflict, internal family. Call it what you will, it can have a marked effect on the way we see the world...

We Can Only Hope The World Will Change

For us, this is the third week of lock-down, quarantine, isolation, or whatever other label you would like to put on it...

Making Sure Your Relationships Survive In These Trying Times

There has already been much written about how to survive the current crisis. Advice is everywhere from how to exercise and eat properly to how to stave off boredom and deal with shortages...