How I came to believe in the Plural Mind in 1975
I was thirteen in 1975. It was a hot summer that year and we had a heatwave and a drought.
When Does The Responsibility Become Ours?
Often people come into therapy stating they are stuck. Many of them can change that in an instant if they just backed themselves to make better decisions...
The Anatomy Of A Shamed Codependent: A Life Story – Day 2
We continue here with William’s recollections of his early childhood. As stated in Day 1, he has recognised and acknowledged his shame and codependency and is documenting his experiences...
The Anatomy Of A Shamed Codependent: A Life Story – Day 1
What is it really like to be so shamed and codependent that you lose your identity completely and fully? What could have happened to such a person that put them in this state?...
Toxic Shame: How Children Cover Up Toxic Shame With Primary Ego Defences.
For a child who grows up in a dysfunctional environment where shame and possible abandonment issues are present, the feelings that are associated with this are worse than death...
How To Be You In 2021 And Forget The Old
(The audio version of this post is available) It would have been very easy to write another post about the pandemic, still the most troubling aspect of our lives at present. While, with some luck, we might be rid of it sometime in 2021...
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How To Recognise Four Types Of Healthy Shame
Shame is an emotion that affects everything we do and identifying and dealing with it is very difficult at times, even if we recognize our issues as shame based. Most people will attempt to hide their shame with secondary emotions like anger or sadness...
Most Parents Have No Idea How To Parent Effectively
There are many good people in this world trying to parent their children the best they possibly can. The trouble is, their best is generally not enough and the consequences are felt by the child as it develops...
Why We Need To Learn Healthy Shame In Childhood: It Makes Us Human
Shame is a big topic because it means so much to all of us. We all carry it and it is the major factor in how we see ourselves, the world and relationships. We do our best to hide it and we cover it up with other emotions and feelings...
The Effects Of Shame: A Case Study
Shame is the driver of many of the issues we face in our lives. Even experienced therapists do not always see the impact that shame based thinking can have on the Self...
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