Welcome to my blog dedicated to mental health issues. I have been regularly writing about these issues for over two decades and the Safe Harbour blog is a collection of my articles and podcasts on matters that affect people day-to-day such as relationships, codependency, narcissist abuse, parenting and depression. Browse through the top menu to explore more.
Break codependency by taking recovery into real life. Learn how group therapy builds healthier relationship skills, boundaries, and nervous system safety—and how to transfer these gains into everyday community, friendships, and support networks without over-giving, rescuing, or people-pleasing. Practical, clinical guidance for lasting change.
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Break codependency by taking recovery into real life. Learn how group therapy builds healthier relationship skills, boundaries, and nervous system safety—and how to transfer these gains into everyday community, friendships, and support networks without over-giving, rescuing, or people-pleasing. Practical, clinical guidance for lasting change.
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Explore how early relationships shape our reactions to modern life, and learn ways to navigate anxiety with awareness and new strategies.
Discover the importance of setting healthy boundaries in relationships for intimacy and respect. Learn how to define your space effectively.
Discover how to set effective boundaries without over-explaining or feeling guilty. Learn to protect your emotional space confidently.
Learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in therapy with practical tips for protecting your time and emotional well-being.
The extent to which our history influences a relationship will depend on the two people concerned and the emotional distance they have travelled beforehand. For some people, the past is simply context, something to understand but not obsess over.
Codependency often looks like kindness, but underneath it lies quiet, anxious control. In this piece, I explore how fear drives fixing, rescuing, and over-functioning and why reclaiming individuality is the true path to healing. If you’ve ever lost yourself in relationships, this will resonate deeply.
Healing requires stepping into the loneliness we fear. Staying in familiar patterns only deepens suffering. This Therapy Short explores why silence becomes the space where identity, clarity, and self-trust return — and why choosing yourself, even when it hurts, is the beginning of real recovery.
Understanding how childhood shapes adult relationships is key to healing attachment wounds, breaking unhealthy patterns, and building secure, fulfilling connections.
Discover how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, emotional regulation, attachment patterns, trust, and conflict styles — and how awareness creates change.
In this episode, we look at how the Adaptive Self, early attachment learning, and blurred boundaries shape the way we enter relationships, and what it takes to build a stable, healthy We-Self where both people can stay present as themselves.
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr…
There is an old native American legend concerning the “Two-Faced Monster”. Here it is:…
Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience…
There is a fine line between meeting your own needs in a healthy sense and expecting to take everything around you…
I was recently asked by someone to contribute to their thesis. She wrote to me a year after our first contact to suggest that the work that we did together then had been so successful for her that she wanted to make online therapy her subject…
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr…
There is an old native American legend concerning the “Two-Faced Monster”. Here it is:…
Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience…
There is a fine line between meeting your own needs in a healthy sense and expecting to take everything around you…
I was recently asked by someone to contribute to their thesis. She wrote to me a year after our first contact to suggest that the work that we did together then had been so successful for her that she wanted to make online therapy her subject…
Explore the complex aftermath of infidelity and codependency in relationships. Discover paths to healing and rebuilding trust effectively.
Learn how to navigate a relationship with a narcissist and prioritize your mental health. Discover ways to exit toxic dynamics for good.
A clinical exploration of narcissistic and codependent relationships, how both stem from attachment wounds, and what healing through self-leadership requires.
If we are honest, clinically and theoretically, this type of person can change. Narcissistic traits exist on a spectrum and with long term intervention by a skilled therapist, some individuals can develop more self-awareness, emotional regulation and a degree of empathy. However, in practice, the theory doesn’t usually work because such people are very resistant to the process required to make change happen.
I often see this in therapy. A client proudly declares that they have gone “no contact” with everyone who has disappointed them. (At this point, it must be said that no contact with a toxic ex partner is recommended). They go forward with conviction but mostly that conviction is down to exhaustion and mistrust. It is avoidance instead of healing.
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr…
There is an old native American legend concerning the “Two-Faced Monster”. Here it is:…
Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience…
There is a fine line between meeting your own needs in a healthy sense and expecting to take everything around you…
I was recently asked by someone to contribute to their thesis. She wrote to me a year after our first contact to suggest that the work that we did together then had been so successful for her that she wanted to make online therapy her subject…
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr…
There is an old native American legend concerning the “Two-Faced Monster”. Here it is:…
Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience…
There is a fine line between meeting your own needs in a healthy sense and expecting to take everything around you…
I was recently asked by someone to contribute to their thesis. She wrote to me a year after our first contact to suggest that the work that we did together then had been so successful for her that she wanted to make online therapy her subject…
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships. They attempt to make themselves indispensable for their partners (and everyone else) and become the local and family martyr…
There is an old native American legend concerning the “Two-Faced Monster”. Here it is:…
Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience…
There is a fine line between meeting your own needs in a healthy sense and expecting to take everything around you…
I was recently asked by someone to contribute to their thesis. She wrote to me a year after our first contact to suggest that the work that we did together then had been so successful for her that she wanted to make online therapy her subject…
Despite so many people identifying with the symptoms, there are still some who doubt its existence or hold derogatory views against anyone claiming to be codependent. This includes virtually all of the medical profession and indeed, some therapists.
A clinical exploration of narcissistic and codependent relationships, how both stem from attachment wounds, and what healing through self-leadership requires.
Continuing my post on moving on from a bad breakup, let’s look at steps 4 to 6…
I have worked with codependents for many years and have witnessed first-hand the devastation that occurs when a cruel, self-centred individual breezes in and out of their life…
Starting the process is easier than you may think. All you need to do is contact me by mail or telephone and arrange the first consultation. This is free and will allow you to present your issues.
Join Dr Jenner and a small group of other participants in a series of totally private six 90-minute online group therapy sessions.
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