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Many people lose themselves in relationships without realising it. This article explores the concept of the false self, how codependency and self-abandonment develop, and why authenticity is essential for healthy relationships. Learn how reconnecting with your true self can improve self-esteem, boundaries, emotional wellbeing, and intimacy.
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Many people lose themselves in relationships without realising it. This article explores the concept of the false self, how codependency and self-abandonment develop, and why authenticity is essential for healthy relationships. Learn how reconnecting with your true self can improve self-esteem, boundaries, emotional wellbeing, and intimacy.
othing is perfect and that goes for relationships too. Even in the best of intimate relationships, there are those subtle and not so subtle signs that harmony is being disrupted…
The media and TV often celebrate people who are “strong”. Especially in the western world, strength is indicative of the ability to get things done, have a mindset of ambition…
We all have a past. When two people come together and try to form a relationship, the experiences gained by both play a role. How much of a role depends greatly on the people concerned…
We convince ourselves that we are fine. We keep busy, distract ourselves, and on we go. Yet deep down, we know we are stuck, and all the escape in the world won’t change that. We are stuck in patterns, habits and stories we tell ourselves.
If we are honest, clinically and theoretically, this type of person can change. Narcissistic traits exist on a spectrum and with long term intervention by a skilled therapist, some individuals can develop more self-awareness, emotional regulation and a degree of empathy. However, in practice, the theory doesn’t usually work because such people are very resistant to the process required to make change happen.
The headline is perhaps a confusing one to anyone who has experienced trauma and abuse in their life. The helping professions are full of practitioners who deal in the art of forgiveness…
Why are boys still not being taught respect, boundaries and consent early enough? This article explores violence against women, harmful male attitudes, pornography, lad culture and outdated gender roles, arguing that emotional literacy, accountability and healthier masculinity are essential to improving women’s safety, equality and everyday trust in society today.
article explores how daily habits such as routine, sleep, natural light, walking, breathing and healthy eating can support recovery from codependency. It shows how ordinary acts of self care help strengthen individuality, improve wellbeing and create a steadier, healthier life built around your own needs rather than others.
In this episode I connect the wider culture to the private realities couples live with: how learned attitudes shape sexual scripts, and how those scripts can turn pornography into either an escape (often in codependency) or a sign of entitlement (often where narcissistic traits are present).
Break-ups can feel devastating for codependents because the loss is not just of a partner, but of identity, purpose and emotional stability. This article explores why codependents struggle to let go, why they chase unhealthy partners, and how healing begins through boundaries, self-focus, grief work and emotional recovery.
Nervous system regulation is not a trend or quick fix. It is the gradual process of helping the body feel safe enough to come out of survival mode. This article explores simple, effective ways to regulate the nervous system through breath, routine, boundaries, rest, movement and steady daily practice.
Yesterday, I read an article by a “life coach” who said that silent treatment was justified mostly because your partner “probably deserved it”…
Anyone who identifies as codependent will also know that relationships are the “battle ground” where the dysfunction takes place. As codependency originated as a broken connection to caregivers…
When divorce and separation happen and children are involved, it is generally traumatic for all concerned…
If you enjoy reading the varied articles on my blog The Online Therapist, you will be excited to know that it is now available as an app for both Android and Apple. Please go to the links below to download…
Therapy as a couple is hard and there are few guarantees. Many factors determine success or failure. Timing, willingness, the right therapist all come into play…
Yesterday, I read an article by a “life coach” who said that silent treatment was justified mostly because your partner “probably deserved it”…
Anyone who identifies as codependent will also know that relationships are the “battle ground” where the dysfunction takes place. As codependency originated as a broken connection to caregivers…
When divorce and separation happen and children are involved, it is generally traumatic for all concerned…
If you enjoy reading the varied articles on my blog The Online Therapist, you will be excited to know that it is now available as an app for both Android and Apple. Please go to the links below to download…
Therapy as a couple is hard and there are few guarantees. Many factors determine success or failure. Timing, willingness, the right therapist all come into play…
The media and TV often celebrate people who are “strong”. Especially in the western world, strength is indicative of the ability to get things done, have a mindset of ambition…
If we are honest, clinically and theoretically, this type of person can change. Narcissistic traits exist on a spectrum and with long term intervention by a skilled therapist, some individuals can develop more self-awareness, emotional regulation and a degree of empathy. However, in practice, the theory doesn’t usually work because such people are very resistant to the process required to make change happen.
I talk a lot about boundaries. I believe they are the foundation of a healthy relationship. Setting boundaries means being emotionally honest, assertive and it means protecting your emotional
This article challenges the habit of labelling every difficult ex as a narcissist and explores whether the deeper issue may be an attachment to chaos. It examines codependency, emotional intensity, nervous system familiarity, and the tendency to mistake instability for connection, chemistry, or meaningful love in adult relationships.
This article explains why leaving a narcissistic relationship can feel like betrayal for codependent people. It explores guilt, loyalty, trauma bonding, hope, emotional responsibility, and the fear of abandoning someone difficult, while showing how leaving can be an act of self-protection rather than cruelty.
Yesterday, I read an article by a “life coach” who said that silent treatment was justified mostly because your partner “probably deserved it”…
Anyone who identifies as codependent will also know that relationships are the “battle ground” where the dysfunction takes place. As codependency originated as a broken connection to caregivers…
When divorce and separation happen and children are involved, it is generally traumatic for all concerned…
If you enjoy reading the varied articles on my blog The Online Therapist, you will be excited to know that it is now available as an app for both Android and Apple. Please go to the links below to download…
Therapy as a couple is hard and there are few guarantees. Many factors determine success or failure. Timing, willingness, the right therapist all come into play…
Yesterday, I read an article by a “life coach” who said that silent treatment was justified mostly because your partner “probably deserved it”…
Anyone who identifies as codependent will also know that relationships are the “battle ground” where the dysfunction takes place. As codependency originated as a broken connection to caregivers…
When divorce and separation happen and children are involved, it is generally traumatic for all concerned…
If you enjoy reading the varied articles on my blog The Online Therapist, you will be excited to know that it is now available as an app for both Android and Apple. Please go to the links below to download…
Therapy as a couple is hard and there are few guarantees. Many factors determine success or failure. Timing, willingness, the right therapist all come into play…
Yesterday, I read an article by a “life coach” who said that silent treatment was justified mostly because your partner “probably deserved it”…
Anyone who identifies as codependent will also know that relationships are the “battle ground” where the dysfunction takes place. As codependency originated as a broken connection to caregivers…
When divorce and separation happen and children are involved, it is generally traumatic for all concerned…
If you enjoy reading the varied articles on my blog The Online Therapist, you will be excited to know that it is now available as an app for both Android and Apple. Please go to the links below to download…
Therapy as a couple is hard and there are few guarantees. Many factors determine success or failure. Timing, willingness, the right therapist all come into play…
Being in a relationship with a narcissist “type” can be hell. However, what if the narcissist is your parent and has cloned you to be a living “perfect” version of him or her? A child chosen to heal the parent’s own broken past…
Codependency is a complex issue and many therapists doubt its existence. They might agree somewhat with the classic definition of codependency where an enabling partner helps an addict maintain…
Codependents show and exhibit many common symptoms. One of these and one that I see often with clients is hyper-vigilance, not in the sense of
There are many articles around on the internet about all types of narcissism and the dangers of being in a relationship with someone who has these tendencies. The advice is clear: get away from the situation as quickly as possible…
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