Narcissists are very choosy. They choose their victims carefully and their choice is usually based on such things as status, wealth, influence or ability. The victims are usually attractive and popular. The more of this the victim has, the greater the value of the supply for the narcissist.
Despite so many people identifying with the symptoms, there are still some who doubt its existence or hold derogatory views against anyone claiming to be codependent. This includes virtually all of the medical profession and indeed, some therapists.
Cozolino conveys a profound sense of optimism about the potential for transformation and healing through neuroplasticity.
Codependency isn’t a flaw—it’s a survival response wired deep in your nervous system. Based on Louis Cozolino’s neuroscience research, this post unpacks how early relationships shape your patterns—and how to finally rewire them for love that feels safe, mutual, and real. Healing is possible—and it starts within.
I wanted to send a clear message: That codependents aren’t sick. They don’t need pills or diagnosing. I wanted to make it very clear that recovery is very much in the hands of the codependent and that recovery starts and finishes with the codependent. Codependency is behavioural and learned from the environment we grew up in and it can be unlearnt. The only recovery from codependency is to find and maintain the individual within.
Those of us who battle with self-assurance may find ourselves drawn to someone who is aggressive. Someone who is disciplined may give us solace in the event that we are lacking structure. In the beginning, these characteristics might make us feel excited and complementary. It seems as if the other person "completes" us. This usually happens in the honeymoon period.
There is a notable shift towards more flexible, less traditional interpersonal dynamics, in which people value personal fulfillment over society standards. Today's relationships are more adaptable, digital, and self-centered, emphasizing personal development and emotional freedom above strict structures. These shifts represent a deeper shift in how individuals see love, intimacy, and commitment in the modern era.
Join me for a live Q&A where we’ll dive into all things codependency, relationships, and breaking free from destructive habits. Whether you're just starting to recognize unhealthy patterns or deep into your healing journey, this session is for you. Struggling with a romantic partner, family dynamics, or friendships? Bring your questions—this is your space to ask, learn, and grow.
We are all individuals, formed from different experiences and we often judge our compatibility on how we see our new partner in the early stages of a relationship. In this phase, our incompatibility is hidden by our need to connect and is driven chiefly by hormones (sometimes repetition compulsion)and brain chemical, not common sense.
Men consume pornography for a variety of reasons, including biological, psychological, and societal effects. A strong sex drive, fuelled by testosterone, can result in frequent sexual thoughts and cravings, making pornography an appealing outlet.
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