Living with a codependent is not easy. The constant neediness and 'return' required where sacrifice and matrydom run their lives can be draining.
The boundaries in therapy should be established and maintained by the therapist and not the client. Many people come into therapy without knowledge of boundaries or how to set them and are probably used to having what few they have violated.
In relationships, the little things are the big things. The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.
Codependency is not about others it is about YOU, yes you, taking responsibility for aspects of your behavior that leave you exposed to being taken advantage of.
I’ve done an excellent job of explaining how things work to others, but I’ve done a poor job of following my own advice at times. With my self-disclosure, I’m hoping that it may be able to assist or encourage others who are going through similar situations.
Your genuine self is who you truly are as a person, independent of your employment or the influence of others; it is an accurate reflection of who you are.
Just recently, infidelity in marriages has been a big topic with some of my clients. It has happened and they are struggling with the aftermath of it. Some have separated, some have separated to try to see if there can be a basis for renewal of the relationship...
We cannot go on reliving the trauma of our childhood in our adult world. Nobody needs rescuing generally and it is wrong to feel you need rescuing by others. It is all about awareness and responsibility...seeking awareness and taking responsibility. I see the next hike coming!
Listen to the new podcast around Dr. Nicholas Jenner’s book “Our Quest For Happily Ever After & why it sometimes doesn't work’. We discuss a section taken from the third chapter of the book called: “Taking The First Steps to Recovery (After A Breakup)”.
Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States alone involving more than 6 million children (a report can include multiple children). The United States has one of the worst records among industrialized nations – losing on average between four and seven children every day to child abuse and neglect.