HELPING YOURSELF – Page 11 – The Online Therapist

Fear Getting Close To Anyone? You Could Be Counter-dependent

The media and TV often celebrate people who are "strong". Especially in the western world, strength is indicative of the ability to get things done, have a mindset of ambition...

How Codependency Can Make You Sick

I believe firmly that it is only a matter of time before codependency becomes a recognised disorder. As discussed many times by this author...

Combining Two Effective Therapies To Help Codependents

Codependency is a complex issue and many therapists doubt its existence. They might agree somewhat with the classic definition of codependency where an enabling partner helps an addict maintain...

Connecting With Your Inner Child… What It Means And How To Do It

Just recently, I have been doing a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience...

Emotional Incest: How A Narcissist Parent Uses A “Golden Child”

There are many articles around on the internet about all types of narcissism and the dangers of being in a relationship with someone who has these tendencies...

After Narcissist Abuse: Avoiding The Gaslighting That Will Certainly Come

The time has finally come. Your friendly neighbourhood narcissist has decided to ship out and move on to his next victim. The disappointment, guilt and feelings of being abused hurt...

After Narcissist Brainwashing, Breaking The Fantasy Is Essential

I am an avid watcher of the many well-produced documentaries on Netflix. They cover a wide range of topics from unsolved crimes through the working of the drugs trade...

Narcissism: How Devaluing Destroys Their Codependent Victims

If you had the chance to study the way a narcissist behaves in a relationship, you might recognise a distinct pattern. A three stage whirlwind of a relationship that will leave a victim emotionally...

Codependency: Breaking The Fantasy Of The Adulation Stage

The power a narcissist has over his victim is all encompassing in the adulation stage and the "hooks" created can make even the most intelligent, rational person doubt their own sanity...

Codependency: Why No Contact After Narcissist Abuse Is Essential But It’s Not As Simple As It Sounds

It is common advice when recovering from narcissist abuse to go "no-contact" or more simply put, cut the person completely out of your life and block any possibility they have to get back in touch...