HELPING YOURSELF – Page 11 – The Online Therapist

After Narcissist Brainwashing, Breaking The Fantasy Is Essential

I am an avid watcher of the many well-produced documentaries on Netflix. They cover a wide range of topics from unsolved crimes through the working of the drugs trade...

Narcissism: How Devaluing Destroys Their Codependent Victims

If you had the chance to study the way a narcissist behaves in a relationship, you might recognise a distinct pattern. A three stage whirlwind of a relationship that will leave a victim emotionally...

Codependency: Breaking The Fantasy Of The Adulation Stage

The power a narcissist has over his victim is all encompassing in the adulation stage and the "hooks" created can make even the most intelligent, rational person doubt their own sanity...

Codependency: Why No Contact After Narcissist Abuse Is Essential But It’s Not As Simple As It Sounds

It is common advice when recovering from narcissist abuse to go "no-contact" or more simply put, cut the person completely out of your life and block any possibility they have to get back in touch...

Codependency: The Black And White Quest For Lost Connection

Imagine deciding to walk from one town to another while carrying a two hundred pound weight? Then, when you finally shed the weight, someone comes along with something even heavier...

Stop The Rage In Your Relationship

It is a fact to be taken for granted that couples argue and conflict will be a feature in their relationship. Conflict in itself is not bad and in fact it can improve a relationship if the couple concerned can learn from it...

Is This Your Relationship? If So, You Need To Change It Or Leave!

A good marriage with someone we truly love is generally the fairytale that is sold to us by society, sometimes parents and definitely religion...

What To Do When You Fall Out Of Love With Your Partner

very morning I make my wife coffee and take it to her in bed. I am an early riser and when she wakes up, I take it to her, she appreciates it and I like doing it...

Let’s Recognise Codependency For What It Is

At the time of writing, the term “codependency” cannot be found in any diagnostic manual anywhere. It is simply not classed as a recognisable disorder and as discussed earlier...

Inner Child Therapy: Countering the Inner Critical Voice

When I practice Inner Child Therapy with clients, we invariably meet the Inner Critic at some stage. This can often be identified because of the “should” statements that are associated with its advice...