Make Divorce About The Kids, Not You!

Divorce is an ugly business. Anyone who has been through it will testify to the emotional turmoil associated with it. Even the one who instigated the proceedings can be very badly affected by the process...

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Cheating: What People Really Think

ust recently, infidelity in marriages has been a big topic with some of my clients. It has happened and they are struggling with the aftermath of it. Some have separated, some have separated to try to see if there can be a basis for renewal of the relationship...

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The Fear Factor

The old saying goes “Life is about choices. If you don’t like your life, make better choices”.  This is totally correct. We make choices about most of the things that happen to us in our lives. We can choose to stay in a relationship or go...

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How CBT can help with Maladaptive Thinking

I can't quite remember where I heard it first but it has fascinated me for a long time. The quote went " You know you are getting old when you look in the mirror one day and find your parent looking at you". As time marches on...

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Stephen Covey’s Habit 3: Beat Procrastination And Time-wasting

I have read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People many times and taught others its principles. As Covey rightly said "you need to learn to teach and teach to learn". The first three habits are extremely effective for anyone looking to add structure to their lives in a way that gets them out "the rut"...

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Procrastination And Depression Often Go Hand in Hand

Procrastination can be defined as that invisible wall in front of you, stopping you moving on and using effective methods for beating depressive thinking. Incredibly, in 2010, the APA, in its annual Stress in America report, failed to identify...

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Facing Those Difficult Tasks…

We all do it. We convince ourselves that filing our tax return or planning that career move can wait until tomorrow or next week or next month. We bury our heads in the sand waiting for the right time, knowing that the right time is usually right now. We beat ourselves up because of it knowing that the only person who can change it is us...

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Life Coaching and Mental Illness: A potential minefield?

I recently read an intriguing article from one of my favourite Psychology Today contributors, Dr David Ley, on the rise of Life Coaching in mental health care. As a psychologist, he balanced the arguments for and against extremely well...

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