When children experience affection and approval after success, they may begin to link achievement with personal worth. This Therapy Short explores parental conditional regard, perfectionism and the fear of disappointing others. It explains how parents can encourage effort and responsibility while ensuring their children feel valued when things go wrong.
How can you tell when your relationship is in trouble? Dr Nicholas Jenner draws on his experience as a therapist and relationship coach to explain seven recurring patterns, from emotional distance and fading affection to power struggles, contempt and jealousy. He offers practical ways to talk about what’s happening and begin rebuilding closeness and trust.
Why do adult children go no contact with their parents? Explore the reasons behind family estrangement, including emotional neglect, unresolved conflict and differing family expectations. Discover why parents and children remember relationships differently, when cutting contact may be necessary, and whether damaged parent-child relationships can ever be repaired through understanding.
Why do you still feel responsible for your ex after separation? Discover how codependency, guilt, attachment patterns and emotional obligations can continue after a relationship ends. Learn why setting boundaries feels difficult, how to recognise unhealthy responsibilities and how to move forward without feeling responsible for your former partner's happiness.
When couples stop arguing, it doesn't always mean their relationship has improved. Sometimes, silence signals emotional withdrawal, resignation or relationship exhaustion. Explore why partners emotionally disconnect, how codependency and attachment patterns contribute, and whether a relationship can recover when one person has stopped trying to make things work.
How long should you wait for a partner to change? This article explores when patience becomes avoidance, why promises are different from sustained behavioural change, and how people can become attached to potential rather than evidence. Awareness matters, but healthier relationships eventually require action, boundaries and consistent responsibility from both partners.
Do you really need to reset your nervous system? This article explains why calming and regulation are more useful concepts, how nervous-system activation protects us and how simple practices such as breathing, movement and present-moment awareness can help the body settle without expensive gadgets or complicated techniques.
Children learn about relationships by observing how their parents handle affection, conflict, repair, boundaries and independence. Dr Nicholas Jenner explores how the relationship between adults can influence a child's developing expectations about intimacy and emotional safety, and why respectful repair may matter more than trying to avoid disagreement completely.
Why can a small disagreement feel threatening in a relationship? When conflict has become associated with rejection, withdrawal or instability, the nervous system may react as if connection itself is at risk. This article explores relationship conflict, codependency and emotional regulation, and explains how to stay present without abandoning your own position.
The body often reacts before the mind is aware, responding to perceived threats based on past experiences. This can lead to overreactions during conflicts, as the nervous system is triggered by cues associated with danger. Understanding these reactions involves creating space to process emotions rather than acting immediately. Dr. Nicholas Jenner offers support through therapy and his Codependency programme to help manage these patterns.
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