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The Most Dangerous Relationship Is the One That Never Really Happened

Many people believe they are grieving a relationship when, in reality, they are mourning the future they imagined. This article explores why we become attached to potential rather than reality, how fantasy shapes emotional pain, and why recognising the difference can be the first step towards genuine healing and healthier relationships.

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The Relationship You Never Recovered From Wasn’t Romantic

Many adult relationship struggles have their roots in childhood, not romance. This article explores how unresolved relationships with parents, siblings, and caregivers shape attachment, codependency, boundaries, and self-worth. Discover why familiar patterns repeat in adult relationships and how understanding your emotional blueprint can support lasting change.

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The False Self in Relationships: When Love Costs You Your Identity

Many people lose themselves in relationships without realising it. This article explores the concept of the false self, how codependency and self-abandonment develop, and why authenticity is essential for healthy relationships. Learn how reconnecting with your true self can improve self-esteem, boundaries, emotional wellbeing, and intimacy.

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Therapy Shorts 82: Want A New Start? Clear Out The Dead Wood First

Change is never easy but we face it every day. For some it is a terrifying experience, for others an opportunity. We all, see it, feel it and deal with in in different ways. How we see it, feel it and deal with it will generally determine how difficult it will be...

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New Podcast: The Manosphere, Porn, and Consent: How Attitudes Become Relationship Damage

In this episode I connect the wider culture to the private realities couples live with: how learned attitudes shape sexual scripts, and how those scripts can turn pornography into either an escape (often in codependency) or a sign of entitlement (often where narcissistic traits are present).

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Therapy Shorts 61: The Role of Thinking Parts in Mental Health

Explore therapeutic approaches to understanding the mind and personality, focusing on CBT and the multiplicity of thinking parts in recovery.

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Therapy Shorts 48: If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes

Welcome to Therapy Shorts: small moments of reflection to help you steady yourself in a world that never stops moving. I’m Dr Nicholas Jenner, and in each of these brief episodes, we’ll take a simple idea and look at how it actually plays out in real life… in your relationships, your choices, and the way you speak to yourself.

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The 7 Day Challenge Day 5: The Strategy, First Beat Polarized Thinking

The 7 Day Challenge is well under way. So far we have covered Day 1 Check, Day 2 Challenge, Day 3 Visualise, and Day 4 Demons...

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Why Codependents Are Sometimes Resistant To Therapy

It is wrong to assume that if codependency is identified as an issue, the person concerned is codependent with everyone in his or her life...

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Working Hard On Core Beliefs

My clients have been doing some serious work lately.... leading to a few AHA moments. There have been some exciting times in my practice in the last few weeks...

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