FREE FROM CODEPENDENCY – Page 15 – Safe Harbour Therapy and Counselling

Love: Just Three Little Words?

I love you… Just words, often misused, often overstated, often said without conviction but when these three little words are missing...

Why Codependents Stay With That “Special” Person

elationships are never as smooth as they could be and a major amount of hard work has to go in to keeping the ship afloat. If you read the many articles online about being in a relationship

Codependency: Emotional Manipulators – The Case For Locking The Door

I have seen many times a situation that is very frustrating for me as a therapist. Working with codependents, it is often advisable to ensure their recovery...

Codependents In Isolation: A Question Of Self-Care

The weekend has been tough so far. In our small town, new confirmed cases are being reported every day. There is a sense of surrealism...

A Sense Of Humour Helps In Enforced Isolation

I come from a country where the 'stiff upper lip' and 'wartime spirit' are very much part of the national psyche...

Codependents Need To Learn To Feel

Developmental trauma is the root cause of codependency. By trauma, I mean that a codependent in childhood sought but never attained connection with a caregiver...

Relationship Success Can Be Gauged By Looking At Attachment Styles

Anyone who has been in a long term relationship will testify to how it changes over time. There is the initial “falling in love” phase described earlier where there is more sex...

Codependency: “Me Time” Is An Essential Part Of Any Relationship

Many people feel threatened when their partner asks for "space". The immediate thought might be that they are ending the relationship or it is heading in the wrong direction...

Beware The Narcissist Grandparent

Some years ago, I wrote about the concept of the golden child in a family. Succinctly put, this is a child who is asked to maintain the self esteem of a narcissist parent...

Parental Alienation: The Issues Are Not Gender Specific

As stated in my last post, there was a huge reaction last week to a post I wrote some time ago. It was actually the second time it had gained so much attention in the year since it was first published...