Codependents: Letting Go And Relapsing
Codependents love to give. It is what they do, continually. As I have mentioned in previous posts, this giving comes with an element of return…
Emotional Incest Or Invasive Parenting… Call It What You Will, It Is A Terrible Form Of Child Abuse
Can you imagine what it is like for a child who is trying to work out how the world works, being dragged into the adult world before they are ready...
Responding Quickly To Emotions Is Irrational…. And Here’s Why
There will be many people who come across this post who are stuck. Stuck in life generally but specifically in relationships that are abusive, dysfunctional and with people who care very little about them...
Codependency: How Hyper-Vigilance Turns To Victimhood In A Never-Ending Cycle
Codependents show and exhibit many common symptoms. One of these and one that I see often with clients is hyper-vigilance, not in the sense of physical threat but mostly to…
Why Codependents Are Sometimes Resistant To Therapy
It is wrong to assume that if codependency is identified as an issue, the person concerned is codependent with everyone in his or her life...
Breaking The Bond Between Narcissist And Codependent
Among my patient group (and circle of friends), there are people who continually allow others to take advantage of them, continue to give and stay in very toxic relationships...
Codependents: Your Narcissist Partner Is A Symptom, Not The Cause
Many codependents that I deal with like to talk about narcissism because it generally plays a big role in their lives. As people who will generally attract the odious, they…
Controlling Codependency: Keeping Others In Line
Narcissists always get a bad press and probably rightly so. (At this point, we should note that we should only use the term narcissist when someone has been officially diagnosed with NPD...
Take Your Internal Family To A Safe Place
In my last post, I talked about the value of meeting a "younger self" in visualisation. I said and believe that this is an emotional but worthwhile step in trying to come to terms with childhood trauma...
Meeting Your Younger Self Tells You All You Need To Know
While doing inner child work with clients, I often run them through a guided visualisation where they meet and greet a younger version of themselves...