HELPING YOURSELF – Page 7 – The Online Therapist

The Advantages Of Defensive Pessimism

Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ?...

How We React To Shame And Why We Keep It Hidden

Many codependents that I deal with have real issues with shame that was acquired in childhood. Initially, this starts with adaptive protection measures...

The Formation Of An Inner Critic

Life sometimes tells us that we are not deserving. We go through long periods of believing that there is something inherently wrong with us. One of the major factors in this process...

What Is The Inner Child?

I do a lot of inner child work with very interesting results. Touching the part of our emotional memory that has been locked away for years, can be a powerful, enlightening experience...

How Discrimination And Stigma Impede Mental Health Treatment

When I was young, my family would often travel to a nearby town to visit family friends. As a child, it was not my favorite pastime and I often felt forced to play with the kids in the family which at that age was a chore...

Re-parenting your Inner Child

We have seen clearly in my previous set of posts how an inner critic is formed from the defence mechanisms used by the wounded, criticised child and how these can be taken forward into adulthood...

Anxiety: The Facts

Many of the clients I deal with in my online therapy practice suffer from anxiety. Anxiety is the disorder of our modern times and the amount of people suffering from it is increasing every year...

Take A Moment To Be Mindful

We spend much of our time in our heads, thinking about the past or worrying about the future. We interact with others and feel triggered and we are often tied to past events and relationships in our mind...

Codependency: Change The Template Of Your Life!

It’s never easy to carry the burden of your childhood, your somewhat dysfunctional connection to the imperfect people we grew up with, and finally come to the realization as an adult that it has affected our whole life...

Choose Contentment

There are many things that determine our lives for better or worse. Parents play a huge role of course, our environment, influences, relationships and peers also play a part...