Why Do Narcissists and Codependents So Often Find Each Other?
Why do narcissists and codependents often form relationships? Explore how these patterns complement each other and how awareness can lead to change.
When Does Helping Become Controlling? The Other Side of Codependency
When does helping become controlling? Explore how codependency, rescuing, over-functioning, attachment and nervous-system patterns can blur the line between support and control.
When Self-Awareness Becomes Another Way of Staying Stuck
Can self-awareness become another form of avoidance? Dr Nicholas Jenner explores why understanding your psychological patterns is only useful when insight begins influencing real decisions and behaviour.
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You Know What the Problem Is. So Why Do You Keep Doing It?
Why do we repeat behaviours we already understand? Dr Nicholas Jenner explains why insight alone does not create behavioural change and how nervous-system responses and short-term emotional relief keep codependent patterns alive.
From Understanding Codependency to Doing Something Different
Explore how codependency develops through attachment, nervous-system responses and learned relationship patterns, and why awareness alone does not create change. Dr Nicholas Jenner connects his A Further Inquiry interview with his upcoming Codependency: Awareness to Action groups, helping participants move from insight towards boundaries, self-regulation, self-trust and lasting behavioural change.
Two New Online Therapy Groups Starting This October
Two online therapy groups begin this October with Dr Nicholas Jenner. Codependency: Awareness to Action focuses on turning insight into behavioural change, while Narcissistic Abuse Recovery supports emotional healing, identity restoration and healthier relationships. Both programmes provide structured, small-group therapeutic work delivered online via Zoom.
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Awareness Is Not Action: How to Move From Knowing to Doing
Understanding your patterns does not automatically change them. This article explores the difficult journey from awareness to action, looking at codependency, the nervous system, Internal Family Systems and behavioural change, and how practising different responses while tolerating discomfort can gradually turn psychological insight into meaningful and lasting change.
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Therapy Shorts 93: What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like: Spoiler: It’s Boring!
Healthy love is rarely dramatic. This article explores why emotionally healthy relationships can initially feel unfamiliar to people shaped by codependency, anxious attachment, or conditional love. It examines the difference between emotional intensity and genuine intimacy, and why calm, consistent relationships often feel uncomfortable before they begin to feel safe.
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Therapy Shorts 90: Not Every Difficult Ex Is a Narcissist. Sometimes You Were Just Addicted to Chaos
This article challenges the habit of labelling every difficult ex as a narcissist and explores whether the deeper issue may be an attachment to chaos. It examines codependency, emotional intensity, nervous system familiarity, and the tendency to mistake instability for connection, chemistry, or meaningful love in adult relationships.
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The Codependent Fantasy: If I Love Them Properly, They Will Change
This article explores the codependent fantasy that enough love, patience, and understanding will change another person. It examines how hope, self-abandonment, and early relational conditioning keep people attached to harmful relationships, and why recovery begins with seeing reality clearly rather than trying to rescue someone who will not change.
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