Why Codependents Accept Abuse: They Are Attached To The Conceptualised Self.

In the course of our lives, we gather a lot of information about who we are. It starts in childhood and is a continuous process...

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You Are Not Flawed Because Your Parents Let You Down. Codependency In Context

As someone who deals regularly with the concept of codependency, it means I have to deal with the concepts of child development too. Let’s face it, the way we grow up, where and who with, are all major factors...

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Not All Group Therapy Is The Same

I am just about to start a new round of group therapy for codependency. I have been running them since the beginning of the year and I have enjoyed them. I believe the participants felt the same...

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Children Are Often The Collateral In Separation

Divorce is an ugly business. Anyone who has been through it will testify to the emotional turmoil associated with it. Even the one who instigated the proceedings can be very badly affected by the process...

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Enmeshment Means Codependents Lose Themselves

Codependency is not something you can take a pill for. It is not something that you can quickly shed like a winter jacket. Codependency is an issue that starts early in life and will continue until an awareness and will is found to change things...

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Join Me On October 3rd For Online Group Therapy For Codependent Recovery

Since the beginning of the year, I have been running various online therapy groups for codependency. Many of these groups have renewed to learn more about the subject. The result has been fantastic and people have been very pleased about creating a dynamic with other members of the group...

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Codependency: Stop Controlling By Breaking Free Of The Drama Triangle

In my recent podcast about the Drama Triangle in codependent relationships, I explained how the triangle of dysfunction that includes rescuing, persecution and...

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Divorcing An Egomaniac Follows A Familiar Pattern

I am unfortunately dealing with a few messy divorce cases at present. I say unfortunately because it is never positive when a marriage breaks down...

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Let’s Talk About Counter-Dependency: It’s Not Narcissism

Have you ever wondered what’s up with the man who spends all his time in the office instead of with his partner?...

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Understanding That Codependency Is About Control

The idea of control by codependents is one that is often overlooked when discussing relationships. We try to understand why people are targeted by self centered individuals...

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