Many codependents I work with talk about the type of person they are usually drawn to. I use the word drawn, rather than attracted, because I believe that it is often an impulse rather than a definite choice...
Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ?...
There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our family of inner critics. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them...
Much of the thinking that we employ on a daily basis is a reflection of childhood and interaction with our caregivers. I am very much on the nurture side of the nature versus nurture argument...
Many of the issues we have in adulthood have a firm base in developmental trauma and how we develop as children has a huge bearing on how we see the world as adults...
Many codependent people find it difficult to be alone. They live in the constant fantasy that they need to be with someone (anyone) to feel ok about themselves. It is in this fantasy that they can best play out their codependent symptoms of trying to fix others...
It’s never easy to carry the burden of your childhood, your somewhat dysfunctional connection to the imperfect people we grew up with, and finally come to the realization as an adult that it has affected our whole life...
When we start a new relationship, we let a few things go that we might not later. We don't always set boundaries or recognise so-called 'red flags'. The adrenaline is just running too high and that is just the way we want it...
A recent study in Australia stated that up to 240 million people worldwide are addicted to something...
Relationship success is something that many of us strive for. Sometimes, this elusive "Holy Grail" escapes all but the very few. I have written here before about the Four Pillars of a functional relationship and how that is the basis if the relationship is to sustain itself long-term.
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