People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...
What does it mean to be codependent? Unless you are codependent, you really cannot imagine what it is like. It is a connection problem that links us to our primary caregivers and the way we connected (or more likely, didn‘t connect) with them...
Let's deal with changing the way you think. We have to start somewhere and realising and recognising irrational thought patterns, how and why they happen is a very healthy process. However, if we stop there and take no affirmative action, where does it really get us.
Continuing our popular stories on real codependents, today we meet A who has been involved with an alcoholic for two years. R, her partner, has been in recovery for a year but the relationship is rocky as he goes through the steps needed to be sober and become...
There are many of my peers who believe that codependency does not exist or is at most, a symptom of a quantifiable and recognizable disorder. Many clients will go through therapy for years without...
Many codependents I work with talk about the type of person they are usually drawn to. I use the word drawn, rather than attracted, because I believe that it is often an impulse rather than a definite choice...
Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ?...
There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our family of inner critics. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them...
Much of the thinking that we employ on a daily basis is a reflection of childhood and interaction with our caregivers. I am very much on the nurture side of the nature versus nurture argument...
Many of the issues we have in adulthood have a firm base in developmental trauma and how we develop as children has a huge bearing on how we see the world as adults...
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