The most common forms of stress are not always what one might think. The fear of death, financial difficulty, being immobile and disabled, falling ill will always be a source of fear and subsequent stress, that could lead to other more chronic conditions such as anxiety and depression.
When used in relationships, the term “manipulation” describes activities undertaken by an individual to try to exert influence over others, frequently in a damaging or deceitful manner.
Fear is with us all the time. Anyone who hates flying will tell what what it is like to board a plane. The same feeling surfaces if we stand on a tall building with a fear of heights, when we have to take a test or face a difficult situation...
In my daily work with codependents, I hear a lot about so-called "red-flags". Usually this comes when clients are describing the early stages of a relationship they were or are in...
Parenting is crucial in a child's development and while it is not the only factor in the acquisition of anxiety and depression, good parenting can make a big difference.
I have been dealing with codependency for about 15 years and the amount of awareness about the condition has massively increased in that time. I would go as far as to say that if you grew up in a dysfunctional household as a child, there is a huge chance of codependency being a part of your life.
Being conscious of what you feel, the emotions you are feeling and what is best for you in that moment will always point you in the right direction.
What is the point of therapy unless there is a goal for change? And who should drive that change in therapy? As therapists, are we hoping that endless navel-gazing and a non-directive approach will bring client awareness as a matter of course?
The boundaries in therapy should be established and maintained by the therapist and not the client. Many people come into therapy without knowledge of boundaries or how to set them and are probably used to having what few they have violated.
In relationships, the little things are the big things. The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.
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