Reflections on Group Therapy And The Need For Psychological Flexibility

I often ask myself that why it is that anxiety and depression are so common in a modern world where we should theoretically, be more content than we are...

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When Procrastination Causes Depression And What To Do About It

Many people in the world are getting used to a new post-lockdown world which is not quite the same as it was before. Restrictions and the threat of infection, isolation and financial and personal loss...

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Where Narcissists And Codependents Share Common Ground

Much of the content available online paint narcissists as monsters and codependents as victims. As most of the personal blogs that carry this content are seemingly written by people...

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Beat Procrastination And Time-wasting

I have read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People many times and taught others its principles. As Covey rightly said "you need to learn to teach and teach to learn". The first three habits are extremely effective for anyone looking to add structure to their lives in a way that gets them out "the rut"...

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If You Are Codependent, Please Read

One of the reasons I work happily with codependents is that I am one myself with symptoms to a large extent worked through. However, I do have to constantly monitor my reactions to things and especially my marriage where symptoms are more likely to appear...

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Lawyers Call For Contract To Cheat: Navigating Relationships Post Pandemic

The last eighteen months have been the strangest in living memory. No-one could have predicted the impact of the global pandemic on the fabric of our societies...

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Reflections On The Inner Child In Group Therapy

In the latest group therapy session, we investigated the Inner Child through meditation and visualisation. This is not a new exercise but it went a little deeper than normal and went on a little longer...

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Boundaries Build Bridges… Don’t Be Afraid To Set Them

People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...

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Failure Is Not The End: Learning And Moving On When Things Don’t Go To Plan

Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat.  It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only  by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing...

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Progress In Therapy Depends On The Relationship But There Must Be Limits

As a therapist, I am always happy when one of my clients has a "aha" moment. This is that very moment when everything comes together and you just know, it is going to initiate some form of positive change in the client's disposition...

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