Psychology Archives - Page 41 of 47

Is This Your Relationship? If So, You Need To Change It Or Leave!

A good marriage with someone we truly love is generally the fairytale that is sold to us by society, sometimes parents and definitely religion...

Let’s Recognise Codependency For What It Is

At the time of writing, the term “codependency” cannot be found in any diagnostic manual anywhere. It is simply not classed as a recognisable disorder and as discussed earlier...

Perfection Doesn’t Exist But We Still Try Hard To Prove That Theory Wrong

Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote ” try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labors is an amazing variety of imperfectness...

In Defence Of The “Marriage Reboot”

When it comes to computers, it has always amazed me that the majority of issues can be solved by switching the machine off and restarting it...

Silent Treatment: A Nemesis For Codependency And Generally Indefensible

Yesterday, I read an article by a "life coach" who said that silent treatment was justified mostly because your partner "probably deserved it"...

The Health Of Your Relationship Can Be Judged By The Way You Fight

If you have been in a relationship that has lasted longer than a few months, you will know that conflict and argument are going to be a part of it...

Inner Child Therapy: Countering the Inner Critical Voice

When I practice Inner Child Therapy with clients, we invariably meet the Inner Critic at some stage. This can often be identified because of the “should” statements that are associated with its advice...

Online Therapy for Codependency: A Testimonial

Ever since I started doing therapy online in 2011, I have dealt with many different disorders. Early on, it was a transitional phase moving from office to online but it quickly moved on...

Making Sure Depression Does Not Define You

I once read a very interesting description of depression. It went something like: "I am depression. I am cold like the Arctic mist, I dampen your spirits and your soul. I fill your mind with gloom...

The Drama Triangle: A Key Element Of Codependent Control

have often documented here how much control exists in codependent thinking. In contrast to their nemesis (someone with narcissist tendencies), codependents are generally nice people who are willing...