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Face It! Increasing Self-Esteem Is A Choice And Can Be Done Like This!

I once read something that has stuck with me for many years. It went something like "there is no success or failure in life... just success and learning opportunities"...

Defensive Pessimism And How It Can Help You Move Forward

Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ? Sounds crazy and not too healthy but there are times when this kind of thinking can certainly be justified...

Want A New Start? Clear Out The Dead Wood First

Change is never easy but we face it every day. For some it is a terrifying experience, for others an opportunity. We all, see it, feel it and deal with in in different ways. How we see it, feel it and deal with it will generally determine how difficult it will be...

Self-Esteem Is About “Doing” Not “Being”. Increase Your Self-Worth In 5 Easy Steps

Self-esteem is a big issue for all of us and we could all do with more. In therapy, it is one of the most sought after goals that clients put on their wish list. "I need to increase my self-esteem"...

Understanding The “Parts” of Your Thinking

Many therapeutic approaches deal with our thinking as a major part of the work needed to recover from our ills. CBT, especially, doesn't look at events but how our perception of the event affects us...

What To Do When The Protectors Provoke The Anger In You

In my job, I deal daily with lots of angry people. There are those who are angry about something specific (and sometimes have a right to be) and those who are just angry...

Codependents In The Midst Of Corporate Narcissism

Something you may not know about my career is that I used to work a lot with corporate clients, especially banks and financial institutions...

The 7 Day Challenge: Reflections

This will sound a little strange. I often have my best ideas about new posts and podcasts in the middle of the night when it wakes me up and I do my best to remember the detail in the morning...

Have a Strategy For Online Dating

Online dating has been the preferred method of finding a partner for many people for many years. A lot of people have had success and many will testify to the effectiveness and ease of using this method...

The Role Of A Father

As I work longer with clients, it is clear that the parenting style that they were subjected to as a child is extremely important in determining how they see the world. This conditioning is often taken into adulthood and causes dysfunction in relationships and in life generally...