The Only Question You Should Be Asking On A First Date

That is the person who could turn out to be "the one" or not. You certainly won't know when the relationship is young but asking the right questions will certainly give an indication.

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Group Therapy For Codependency Starting January 2023

Group therapy is often defined by stereotypes taken from television programmes, especially in the US, depicting recovering alcoholics starting the process by stating “My name is… I am an alcoholic”.

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What Are Our Big Stressors And What Can We Do About Them?

The most common forms of stress are not always what one might think. The fear of death, financial difficulty, being immobile and disabled, falling ill will always be a source of fear and subsequent stress, that could lead to other more chronic conditions such as anxiety and depression.

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How To Spot The Manipulator In Your Life (And How To Keep Them Out)

When used in relationships, the term “manipulation” describes activities undertaken by an individual to try to exert influence over others, frequently in a damaging or deceitful manner.

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Watch the “Red Flags” In The Honeymoon Period

In my daily work with codependents, I hear a lot about so-called "red-flags". Usually this comes when clients are describing the early stages of a relationship they were or are in...

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Saving Our Children From Anxiety And Depression. Hiding in Plain Sight

Parenting is crucial in a child's development and while it is not the only factor in the acquisition of anxiety and depression, good parenting can make a big difference.

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Codependency: Parasites, Emotional Vampires And Neediness.

I have been dealing with codependency for about 15 years and the amount of awareness about the condition has massively increased in that time. I would go as far as to say that if you grew up in a dysfunctional household as a child, there is a huge chance of codependency being a part of your life.

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How To Simply Stop Procrastination And Avoidance

We all do it. We convince ourselves that doing what needs to be done or facing that issue can wait until tomorrow or next week or next month or never.

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In Therapy, AA Is Important But It’s Not What You Might Think!

What is the point of therapy unless there is a goal for change? And who should drive that change in therapy? As therapists, are we hoping that endless navel-gazing and a non-directive approach will bring client awareness as a matter of course?

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On Being A Therapist: Examining The Therapeutic Relationship

The boundaries in therapy should be established and maintained by the therapist and not the client. Many people come into therapy without knowledge of boundaries or how to set them and are probably used to having what few they have violated.

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