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Who Are You? It’s Mostly Who You Think You Should Be!

Your genuine self is who you truly are as a person, independent of your employment or the influence of others; it is an accurate reflection of who you are.

Child Abuse: A Reminder

Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. Every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States alone involving more than 6 million children (a report can include multiple children). The United States has one of the worst records among industrialized nations – losing on average between four and seven children every day to child abuse and neglect.

I’m Adding Rules To My Life To Cope With Codependency

I have always said that codependency recovery is about management and not cure. Being a behavioural issue means that setbacks can easily happen. There is no linear line available from A to Z. One has to constantly manage symptoms on a daily basis and take one day at a time and always challenge yourself to do the right thing. Doing the right thing means taking responsibility and leadership.

Getting Away From The Apps and Meeting People in “Real Life”

That's the problem with dating apps: you see some great photos and pretend to yourself that they can genuinely have a conversation that isn't about them. If this profile had approached this lady in the typical manner, weeks of texting would not have been wasted. There would have been a quick dialogue and then it would have been over. I see this every day in practice, frustration at meeting the next "loser" and the feeling that it will never work.

Can We Heal From Trauma?

Trauma occurs when a loved one dies unexpectedly, when a child is assaulted, or when caregivers violate boundaries. It can occur as a result of an accident or as a result of being beaten for being the wrong colour, religion, or sexual orientation. It occurs during a rape. It does not only occur in the presence of "evil" strangers or natural disasters; it also occurs within families and in the name of love. Having stated that, what is trauma?

Don’t Let Your Abuser Back In Your Life

The lockdown was, in fact, a haven for abusers. Their victims, who would typically have an escape route, had that route completely closed off by anti-virus procedures. It has been called by some, the shadow pandemic.

Your Couple Type Is Determined By Your Attachment Style

So frequently, when we enter a new relationship, we view it as a blank sheet and tell ourselves, I'm going to do it my way. However, as youngsters, we absorb information like sponges — we can't help but take in how our parents behaved and what happened in our own family.

What Is Anger And Why Codependents Can Be Angry People

Anger transcends feelings. Indeed, your body goes into overdrive when it detects a danger. It begins by releasing adrenaline, the “fight or flight” hormone. Your heart rate accelerates and your blood pressure rises in response...

Practice The Art Of Wintering Or Hygge

The majority of us will be thinking about the upcoming year at some time in the near future. If you are anything like me, you’ll find yourself gazing backward before looking forward. Dwelling on things that have already happened is not always beneficial, especially if it consumes more of your time than is necessary...

Sacrifice: A Lesson In Perspective

My recent visit to the Normandy Beaches, the site of the D-Day landings, served as an inspiration for this piece. On a previous trip, I had seen Omaha Beach and the American Military Cemetery, which is perhaps the most well-known and well-visited of all the landing locations...