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Therapy Shorts 57: Narcissistic and Codependent Relationships: Two Sides of the Same Wound

A clinical exploration of narcissistic and codependent relationships, how both stem from attachment wounds, and what healing through self-leadership requires.

Nostalgia, Ageing & Living Alone at Christmas and Year’s End

A reflective therapeutic exploration of nostalgia, loneliness, ageing, and living alone at the end of the year and how to meet it with self-compassion.

Therapy Shorts 55: How to Heal Attachment Wounds: A Roadmap to Recovery

Learn practical tools to heal attachment wounds using somatic work, reparenting, parts work, self-compassion, and secure relationship skills.

Therapy Shorts 53: Healing Requires Loneliness

Healing requires stepping into the loneliness we fear. Staying in familiar patterns only deepens suffering. This Therapy Short explores why silence becomes the space where identity, clarity, and self-trust return — and why choosing yourself, even when it hurts, is the beginning of real recovery.

Therapy Shorts 52: Codependency Is All About Control And It Took Me Years to Come Out of Denial

Codependency often looks like kindness, but underneath it lies quiet, anxious control. In this piece, I explore how fear drives fixing, rescuing, and over-functioning and why reclaiming individuality is the true path to healing. If you’ve ever lost yourself in relationships, this will resonate deeply.

Stop Investigating, Start Understanding: The Psychology Behind Past Obsession

The extent to which our history influences a relationship will depend on the two people concerned and the emotional distance they have travelled beforehand. For some people, the past is simply context, something to understand but not obsess over.

Therapy Shorts 51: The Myth of “We Complete Each Other”

In this episode, we look at how the Adaptive Self, early attachment learning, and blurred boundaries shape the way we enter relationships, and what it takes to build a stable, healthy We-Self where both people can stay present as themselves.

Self-Love Isn’t Just a Spa Day, It’s About Self-Accountability

Many people in therapy don’t always like it or agree when their therapist tells them (If they don’t, they should) that real self-love looks a lot like self-accountability. It’s not glamorous at all, it’s not Instagram worthy. It can be deeply unsettling and sometimes lonely. The “glamour” is just a way to avoid the pain of the work needed.

Therapy Shorts 49: The Truth No-One Wants To Hear

Welcome to Therapy Shorts: small moments of reflection to help you steady yourself in a world that never stops moving. I’m Dr Nicholas Jenner, and in each of these brief episodes, we’ll take a simple idea and look at how it actually plays out in real life… in your relationships, your choices, and the way you speak to yourself.

Therapy Shorts 48: If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes

Welcome to Therapy Shorts: small moments of reflection to help you steady yourself in a world that never stops moving. I’m Dr Nicholas Jenner, and in each of these brief episodes, we’ll take a simple idea and look at how it actually plays out in real life… in your relationships, your choices, and the way you speak to yourself.