Why Do Narcissists and Codependents So Often Find Each Other?
Why do narcissists and codependents often form relationships? Explore how these patterns complement each other and how awareness can lead to change.
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When Does Helping Become Controlling? The Other Side of Codependency
When does helping become controlling? Explore how codependency, rescuing, over-functioning, attachment and nervous-system patterns can blur the line between support and control.
When Self-Awareness Becomes Another Way of Staying Stuck
Can self-awareness become another form of avoidance? Dr Nicholas Jenner explores why understanding your psychological patterns is only useful when insight begins influencing real decisions and behaviour.
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You Know What the Problem Is. So Why Do You Keep Doing It?
Why do we repeat behaviours we already understand? Dr Nicholas Jenner explains why insight alone does not create behavioural change and how nervous-system responses and short-term emotional relief keep codependent patterns alive.
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Awareness Is Not Action: How to Move From Knowing to Doing
Understanding your patterns does not automatically change them. This article explores the difficult journey from awareness to action, looking at codependency, the nervous system, Internal Family Systems and behavioural change, and how practising different responses while tolerating discomfort can gradually turn psychological insight into meaningful and lasting change.
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Therapy Shorts 107: The Child Who Never Learnt to Disagree
Many adults avoid conflict not because they are naturally agreeable, but because they learnt early that disagreement threatened connection. Conflict avoidance is often a protective response: staying quiet once helped…
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Can Two People Ever Truly Know One Another?
Can two people ever truly know one another? This article explores the limits of understanding in relationships, revealing how assumptions, personal history and curiosity shape emotional connection. Learn why lasting relationships depend less on certainty and more on continual discovery, open communication and a willingness to keep learning together.
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Therapy Shorts 104: What Is a Relationship For?
What is a relationship really for? This thought-provoking article explores the deeper purpose of intimate relationships, arguing that they are not simply sources of happiness but opportunities for self-awareness, emotional growth and personal development. Discover how relationships reveal who we are and who we can become.
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Therapy Shorts 103: When a Relationship Becomes Your Identity
Can a relationship become your identity? This article explores how losing your sense of self within a partnership can affect confidence, boundaries and emotional wellbeing. Discover the difference between healthy connection and unhealthy dependence, and why maintaining your individuality is essential for lasting, fulfilling relationships.
Therapy Shorts 101: The Three Projects That Quietly Ruin Relationships.
Explore the complexities of relationships entering 2026, covering love, compatibility, and the importance of personal identity.
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