Yesterday, we started the 7 day Challenge with Day 1, Check your Current Scenario, where I asked you to document an issue you might be having in your life that you know needs changing, however big or small...
It doesn't matter what kind of relationship you are in, there will be conflict. In fact, if there isn‘t, one might question the connection present! Conflict management is one of the key skills that couples must learn if their relationship is to survive over the long term...
It is my own personal experience, and that of clients, that whoever you choose to have a relationship with, there will be conflict and a lot of it. The paradox to our usual thinking is that the more intense and close a relationship is...
Let's deal with changing the way you think. We have to start somewhere and realising and recognising irrational thought patterns, how and why they happen is a very healthy process. However, if we stop there and take no affirmative action, where does it really get us.
Many codependents that I deal with have real issues with shame that was acquired in childhood. Initially, this starts with adaptive protection measures...
Much of the thinking that we employ on a daily basis is a reflection of childhood and interaction with our caregivers. I am very much on the nurture side of the nature versus nurture argument...
In my last post, I tackled the concept of transference in therapy. That is, the transfer of feelings from a significant person, past or present, onto the therapist...
Transference happens in therapy a lot. In fact, it can happen in any relationship but is closely associated with the therapeutic relationship between a client and therapist...
Relationship success is something that many of us strive for. Sometimes, this elusive "Holy Grail" escapes all but the very few. I have written here before about the Four Pillars of a functional relationship and how that is the basis if the relationship is to sustain itself long-term.
These days we throw the words "narcissist" and "codependent" around like confetti. It is easy to label someone who appears self-centred as the former and one who gives a little bit too much as the latter.
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