Emotional Honesty: What It Is And Why It Is Important
Most people are emotionally dishonest for various reasons. A bold statement, maybe but in my experience it is a true statement. Look at this quote...
See Your Core Beliefs As A Bag To Be Carried And Sorted Through
We all see the world in a specific way. Call it what you will.... paradigm... window on the world... frame of reference, it is all the same. It dictates to a large degree how we think, feel and behave in any given situation...
The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Therapists
Many people who come into therapy for the first time might find it difficult to imagine what to expect. There are many stereotypical images to draw on in the media and TV of the traditional shrink type character...
Are You Truly Listening To Your Partner? Bringing Respect Back To Your Relationship
As a therapist, I do a lot of couples therapy. That means I deal frequently with warring, dysfunctional relationships in most cases. Most people enter couples therapy as a last resort to save their marriage or relationship...
Building up to “Aha” Moments In Therapy
As a therapist, I am always happy when one of my clients has a "aha" moment. This is that very moment when everything comes together and you just know, it is going to initiate some form of positive change in the client's disposition...
Codependency: Stop The Rot By Connecting With Your Child
If you are a codependent and have children of your own, then there is a better than average chance that the codependent tendencies you have, will be passed down through a dysfunctional parenting...
Defensive Pessimism And How It Can Help You Move Forward
Can you imagine a therapist telling a patient to think negatively ? To concentrate on the less positive aspects of the issues they are having ? Sounds crazy and not too healthy but there are times when this kind of thinking can certainly be justified...
Self-Esteem Is About “Doing” Not “Being”. Increase Your Self-Worth In 5 Easy Steps
Self-esteem is a big issue for all of us and we could all do with more. In therapy, it is one of the most sought after goals that clients put on their wish list. "I need to increase my self-esteem"...
Understanding The “Parts” of Your Thinking
Many therapeutic approaches deal with our thinking as a major part of the work needed to recover from our ills. CBT, especially, doesn't look at events but how our perception of the event affects us...
How We Sabotage Our Ability To Get Things Done
I have written quite a lot lately about reaching a point where change is possible, moving forward is possible and it just takes that step or choice to make it happen...