Be Kind To Your Internal Family And Gain Access To The Self
There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our Internal family of thinking parts. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them...
How A Child Can Become A Parent Before Becoming An Adult
When we think about child abuse, our thoughts often stop at sexual abuse of minors. However, the term child abuse, often replaced by child maltreatment, has a broad spectrum of definition...
Codependency: Stop The Rot By Connecting With Your Child
If you are a codependent and have children of your own, then there is a better than average chance that the codependent tendencies you have, will be passed down through a dysfunctional parenting...
When Codependents Become Resistant To Therapy
It is wrong to assume that if codependency is identified as an issue, the person concerned is codependent with everyone in his or her life...
Face It! Increasing Self-Esteem Is A Choice And Can Be Done Like This!
I once read something that has stuck with me for many years. It went something like "there is no success or failure in life... just success and learning opportunities"...
Want A New Start? Clear Out The Dead Wood First
Change is never easy but we face it every day. For some it is a terrifying experience, for others an opportunity. We all, see it, feel it and deal with in in different ways. How we see it, feel it and deal with it will generally determine how difficult it will be...
Self-Esteem Is About “Doing” Not “Being”. Increase Your Self-Worth In 5 Easy Steps
Self-esteem is a big issue for all of us and we could all do with more. In therapy, it is one of the most sought after goals that clients put on their wish list. "I need to increase my self-esteem"...
A Self Challenge: Identifying The Parts Of My Own Thinking.
I have been quite active lately promoting the use of tools and methods to challenge and potentially overcome blocks in thinking that keep one stuck in the proverbial "hamster wheel" of inaction and overthinking...
Understanding The “Parts” of Your Thinking
Many therapeutic approaches deal with our thinking as a major part of the work needed to recover from our ills. CBT, especially, doesn't look at events but how our perception of the event affects us...
What To Do When The Protectors Provoke The Anger In You
In my job, I deal daily with lots of angry people. There are those who are angry about something specific (and sometimes have a right to be) and those who are just angry...