mental-health Archives

Positive Discipline : The importance of autonomy for children

As children grow older, they like to explore and push boundaries. What they are looking for is a sense of autonomy and self-confidence, an important cog in the wheel of development...

Punishment is not Discipline (Part 2) Considerations

When my daughter who is now 30 started crawling, we attended as a couple some parenting classes. This was supplemented by visits from the seminar leader to consolidate the theory in practice...

Staying With Your Partner After Infidelity?

Once infidelity occurs in a relationship, it breaks the foundation of trust that might have been the one of the main reasons the relationship maintained itself...

Take Your Internal Family To A Safe Place

In my last post, I talked about the value of meeting a "younger self" in visualisation. I said and believe that this is an emotional but worthwhile step in trying to come to terms with childhood trauma...

Meeting Your Younger Self Tells You All You Need To Know

While doing inner child work with clients, I often run them through a guided visualisation where they meet and greet a younger version of themselves...

Soothing Our “Child Part” Will Keep The Narcissist At Bay

I have worked with codependents for many years and have witnessed first-hand the devastation that occurs when a cruel, self-centred individual breezes in and out of their life...

Conditioning Can Be Changed But It Takes Hard Work And Awareness

A client who has been coming to therapy for quite some time, recently had a revelation where she finally realised that her family had conditioned her as a child to believe that she needed to behave in a certain way...

Working Hard On Core Beliefs

My clients have been doing some serious work lately.... leading to a few AHA moments. There have been some exciting times in my practice in the last few weeks...

The Value Of Assignments In Therapy Cannot Be Understated

One of my clients said to me the other day that she had seen many therapists but no-one like me. While I was still trying to work out whether this was a compliment or not,...

Loss Is A Key Element Of Depression

Life is such that we never get all that we want and this is probably just as well. When we taste some amount of success, we are usually rightly elated for a short time...