Narcissism Archives

Let’s Talk About Counter-Dependency: It’s Not Narcissism

Have you ever wondered what’s up with the man who spends all his time in the office instead of with his partner?...

Understanding That Codependency Is About Control

The idea of control by codependents is one that is often overlooked when discussing relationships. We try to understand why people are targeted by self centered individuals...

Couples Therapy With A Narcissist? Avoid At All Costs!

A staggering amount of my clients who identify as codependent and are in a relationship with a self-centered or abusive partner have attempted couples therapy...

Reflections on Group Therapy And The Need For Psychological Flexibility

I often ask myself that why it is that anxiety and depression are so common in a modern world where we should theoretically, be more content than we are...

Where Narcissists And Codependents Share Common Ground

Much of the content available online paint narcissists as monsters and codependents as victims. As most of the personal blogs that carry this content are seemingly written by people...

Lawyers Call For Contract To Cheat: Navigating Relationships Post Pandemic

The last eighteen months have been the strangest in living memory. No-one could have predicted the impact of the global pandemic on the fabric of our societies...

Underestimate The Small Issues In A Relationship At Your Peril

A good marriage with someone we truly love is generally the fairytale that is sold to us by society, sometimes parents and definitely religion...

Become A Compassionate Witness To Your Past

As part of the 7 Day Challenge, I wrote about polarised thinking and how the battle for control of the various "parts" of our personality can lead us to such extremes as being stuck, procrastination, people pleasing and addiction...

The 7 Day Challenge: A Summary

The 7 Day Challenge is over. If I look at the mails and responses I have had, many people followed it at least part way through. Not surprisingly, the most popular days were 2 and 4 that examined reasons why people find it difficult to move forward and the reasons why...

The 7 Day Challenge Day 7: Take Action And Take It Now!

We are at the pinnacle of the 7 Day Challenge, the last day. We have slowly worked through various topics and have finally reached the moment to take action to make a change.... scary, right?...