Underestimate The Small Issues In A Relationship At Your Peril

A good marriage with someone we truly love is generally the fairytale that is sold to us by society, sometimes parents and definitely religion...

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Love Does Not Conquer All: Expectations In Relationships Under The Spotlight

Just how prepared are we for the considerable work needed in order to maintain a relationship? Many of us say that we know fully what lies ahead when we commit ourselves but I wonder just how true this really is...

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Increasing Your Self Worth, Step 1: Understand How The Mind Works

Starting today and for the next four days, I look at the subject of self-esteem and how it impacts our lives. Self-esteem issues came to the fore in the sixties as part of the counterculture movement...

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The 7 Day Challenge Day 6: Test Your Commitment

If you have been following the 7 Day Challenge, you might well now have reached the point where you have identified an issue, tested your resistance, looked at possible solutions and looked at your thinking around this and tried to beat your demons...

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The 7 Day Challenge Day 4: Build A Strategy And Fight Your Demons!

We have so far got through the 7 Day Challenge Day 1, Day 2 and Day 3 where we have checked, challenged and visualised. If you have been following the challenge, you may well have a preferred scenario that you will want to aim for...

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Staying When You Should Go? It’s A Choice And Every Choice Has A Consequence

There will be many people who have started the year with the thought that they need to change their relationship status from attached to unattached. Those same people might also have had that thought last year and the year before and maybe even the year before that...

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How To Be You In 2021 And Forget The Old

(The audio version of this post is available) It would have been very easy to write another post about the pandemic, still the most troubling aspect of our lives at present. While, with some luck, we might be rid of it sometime in 2021...

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How To Give Yourself The Gift Of Boundaries

What exactly is a boundary when it comes to relationships? Simply put, a boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person, a clear place where you begin and the other person ends. Think of it as a fence in your backyard...

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Conflict Management Is A Foundation of Love

It is my own personal experience, and that of clients, that whoever you choose to have a relationship with, there will be conflict and a lot of it. The paradox to our usual thinking is that the more intense and close a relationship is...

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Setting Boundaries Teaches Others How To Treat You (And Other News)

People like me are always trying to make others see the value of setting healthy boundaries in the spirit of emotional honesty. That is expressing what you feel honestly and assertively when there is a feeling that a boundary needs to be set...

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