I have just finished writing a series of codependency stories where I documented various aspects of situations people found themselves in and how different aspects of their character defined how they saw the situation and ultimately how they behaved. Many showed extreme reactions to the environment around them and some were working on assumptions.
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Buddha allegedly said that we are what we think and what we think we become. Stephen Covey said the way we see the problem is the problem. These great minds stated what I believe to be firmly true, in that how we think and allow our minds to influence us determines how capable we are of dealing with many of the situations we might find ourselves in.
This means in practice development of protection measures designed to warn them or keep them away from perceived or real threat. They are based around our natural fight or flight response to stress. Additionally, children will adopt a core belief about themselves based on their interaction with caregivers. These are usually a feeling of not feeling good enough, unlovable or that the world is a dangerous place for them.
As the child becomes an adult, protection measures become part of a personality consolidated by “thinking parts” that dominate, work together and against each other to avoid us facing the same threat again. They will attempt to sabotage new relationships, jobs or any change where life might need a bit of effort. The inner critic is the most well known but there are many other “voices” associated with our self-talk that can be just as destructive. The escape voice or inner rebel, the guilt voice, anger voice all want a say. Ideally, we can counter these with an inner mentor that can provide leadership, compassion and direction for us.
