Be Kind To Your Internal Family And Gain Access To The Self
There are a range of books that tell us how to deal with our Internal family of thinking parts. Most centre on mantras and progressively aggressive language to deal with them...
Codependency: Stop The Rot By Connecting With Your Child
If you are a codependent and have children of your own, then there is a better than average chance that the codependent tendencies you have, will be passed down through a dysfunctional parenting...
Understanding The “Parts” of Your Thinking
Many therapeutic approaches deal with our thinking as a major part of the work needed to recover from our ills. CBT, especially, doesn't look at events but how our perception of the event affects us...
What To Do When The Protectors Provoke The Anger In You
In my job, I deal daily with lots of angry people. There are those who are angry about something specific (and sometimes have a right to be) and those who are just angry...
Dealing With Life’s Small (And Not So Small) Setbacks
Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing...
Depression In The Workplace: Is Your Employer Stepping Up To The Plate?
Sometimes, I am asked by corporate clients to help new managers with the challenges of their new job. Usually, just the basic management tasks can be overwhelming without the added problem of dealing with people and especially ‘difficult’ people...
Thinking Wisely: Releasing The Inner Champion
My last two posts, I have looked at very dysfunctional voices in our heads and how easy it is to follow them. They offer quick-fix solutions that have no substance at all...
Identify The Rebel And The Critic And Release The Champion
When I sometimes take the time to analyse my patients at any given point, there are always many codependents among them. This might be because I have had my own issues with this and like to work with them or it might just be an indication of the size of the issue...
6 Ways To Get Over A Bad Break Up… 1 to 3
Anyone who has been through a break-up will testify to the feelings that surround it. Let’s face it, no-one likes being left and in reality, also ending a relationship is not easy. Invariably,...
Perfectionism Is Truly Driven By Self Defeating Thoughts
Samuel McChord Crothers once wrote "try as hard as we may for perfection, the net result of our labours is an amazing variety of imperfectness. We are surprised at our own versatility in being able to fail in so many different ways". Do you feel like what you accomplish is never quite good enough?...