HELPING YOURSELF – Page 11 – Safe Harbour Therapy and Counselling

Codependency: Self-Care Is Essential And It Starts With You

Many codependents that I see in my practice have very little idea of the concept of self-care...

A Childhood Guaranteed To Foster Codependency

It has been said that a large part of the global population is codependent on something or somebody. That something could be work, substances, alcohol...

Codependents: Letting Go And Relapsing

Codependents love to give. It is what they do, continually. As I have mentioned in previous posts, this giving comes with an element of return…

Spanking Doesn’t Work And Drives Bad Behaviour Underground

Over the weekend, I witnessed a physical assault on a young child. You might not be surprised to know that he was with his parents at the time. I was in a store with my wife...

Responding Quickly To Emotions Is Irrational…. And Here’s Why

There will be many people who come across this post who are stuck. Stuck in life generally but specifically in relationships that are abusive, dysfunctional and with people who care very little about them...

Why Codependents Are Sometimes Resistant To Therapy

It is wrong to assume that if codependency is identified as an issue, the person concerned is codependent with everyone in his or her life...

Loss Is A Key Element Of Depression

Life is such that we never get all that we want and this is probably just as well. When we taste some amount of success, we are usually rightly elated for a short time...

How Our Childhood Never Really Leaves Us… Until It Does

There is an old saying that goes "One day in your life, you will look in the mirror and see your parent looking back at you"...

Codependency: “I Know It Logically But Emotionally, I Don’t Get It”!

Many codependents I work with are stuck in relationships that are abusive, unfulfilling and going nowhere. The sad thing is that they are also going nowhere and stay when they know they should logically leave...

Dealing With Internal Conflict: A Case Study; Part 1: Awareness and analysis

Using the term "Analysing the voices in your head" will often conjure up images akin to the famous film One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest starring Jack Nicholson...