Codependency: Stop Controlling By Breaking Free Of The Drama Triangle

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In my recent podcast about the Drama Triangle in codependent relationships, I explained how the triangle of dysfunction that includes rescuing, persecution and victim status was used to control a codependent object. Many people have made the comment after hearing the podcast that they recognised themselves, a partner or a family member using such tactics. Others have stated that it finally got through how controlling codependency can be when the emphasis in literature and social media is mainly on codependents being controlled and manipulated (this does happen, of course).

Breaking free of the drama triangle is a process that needs a change in mindset and a determination to see control as something negative, not essential. Giving up control in a relationship that includes the drama triangle means, firstly, awareness has to be sought concerning how one might be trying to fix or rescue by becoming indispensable in some way. Is the need to jump in and be everything for everybody there? Is there anxiety when healthy boundaries are set or resentment when help is actually taken? Is there hyper-vigilance around situations looking for opportunities to fix? Is there a general view that everyone is a victim who conveniently needs rescuing?

Read the full article here: on my Online Therapy Hub For Codependent Recovery.

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Dr. Nicholas Jenner, a therapist, coach, and speaker, has over 20 years of experience in the field of therapy and coaching. His specialty lies in treating codependency, a condition that is often characterized by a compulsive dependence on a partner, friend, or family member for emotional or psychological sustenance. Dr. Jenner's approach to treating codependency involves using Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a treatment method that has gained widespread popularity in recent years. He identifies the underlying causes of codependent behavior by exploring his patients' internal "parts," or their different emotional states, to develop strategies to break free from it. Dr. Jenner has authored numerous works on the topic and offers online therapy services to assist individuals in developing healthy relationships and achieving emotional independence.

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