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Accepting your weaknesses . The inner critic will never stop reminding you of how bad your weaknesses are. Once these thoughts become embedded, a process called confirmatory bias takes over and concentrates on producing evidence to support your thoughts. We often do not change this picture due to fear of changing the way we see the world and fear of possible changes. Facing reality, however positive that might be is scary. We hold onto our weaknesses, supported by the inner critic because this is the person we have always known… someone wrong, bad or unworthy. Now we are going to reinterpret some of the weaknesses you identify and hang onto. Write realistic weakness in the following area.
Relating to Others
How others see you
How you do your job/school
Your performance of daily tasks ( money management, food preparation, personal hygiene, protecting your health, self-care)
Mental functioning ( facing issues, relaxation, lessons learned)
When this is done, reframe each weaknesses using the following method.
Rewrite the term using non-pejorative language (e:g instead of “fat thighs or big nose” say “heavier than ideal thighs” or “rounded nose”. Rewrite the sentence using accurate language. This means using exact measurements and clear, true descriptions… not global labels.Rewrite the sentence acknowledging an exception; ( someone complimented you on the feature or skill)Rewrite the term acknowledging a balancing strength. Bring in a skill or part of your body that you feel better about and write a balancing sentence