Therapy Shorts 84: Why You Keep Falling For The Wrong People

Why do codependents so often feel drawn to emotionally unavailable, inconsistent or unhealthy partners?

In this episode, I explore why the wrong people can feel so familiar, why steady love is often overlooked, and how childhood emotional conditioning shapes attraction in adult relationships. I also look at why codependents confuse intensity with connection, mistake drama for love, and later feel deep regret about the people they did not choose.

This is not about weakness or stupidity. It is about old emotional training, low self-worth, nervous system activation and the powerful pull of the familiar.

If you have ever wondered why healthy love can feel flat and chaos can feel like chemistry, this episode will help you understand the pattern more clearly.