Increase Your Self-Esteem in 10 Days. Day 4: The history of your self-esteem

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I am offering you the chance to change. Follow a series of posts and increase your self-worth and esteem. Low self-esteem is like a weight around your neck and stops you moving forward but it is not your story. It is the result of believing false stories and having a “I am bad” mental filter. Join me for the next 10 days and I would be happy to give you input on your answers. Send them to me using the contact form at the end of this post for free no-obligation advice. Details of my online therapy packages can be found on Good luck on your journey to the new you! Dr Nicholas Jenner

People with wounded self-esteem often have a collection of childhood memories that seem to confirm or even prove that they are bad or unworthy. However, they can rarely recall balancing experiences that proved the opposite. Worse still, we often link all of these experiences together and when triggered they all come flooding out at once. Changing how you relate to childhood experiences is a key step to improving self-esteem. This exercises calls for recalling memories and moments where you felt valued, successful and loved. It might be difficult to do if you have been focused on the negative or had a difficult childhood but look deep and they will be there. Please recall these memories by era and think about relationships with parents, teachers, peers, friends, etc;

Four to six years old

Seven to ten years

Eleven to fifteen years

Sixteen to twenty years

Once finished, document anything significant that came up. What does it tell you about yourself? What can these realisations tell you about your worth?

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Dr. Nicholas Jenner, a therapist, coach, and speaker, has over 20 years of experience in the field of therapy and coaching. His specialty lies in treating codependency, a condition that is often characterized by a compulsive dependence on a partner, friend, or family member for emotional or psychological sustenance. Dr. Jenner's approach to treating codependency involves using Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a treatment method that has gained widespread popularity in recent years. He identifies the underlying causes of codependent behavior by exploring his patients' internal "parts," or their different emotional states, to develop strategies to break free from it. Dr. Jenner has authored numerous works on the topic and offers online therapy services to assist individuals in developing healthy relationships and achieving emotional independence.

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