Increase Your Self-Esteem in 10 Days. Day 1: Giving Up Judgment

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I am offering you the chance to change. Follow a series of posts and increase your self-worth and esteem. Low self-esteem is like a weight around your neck and stops you moving forward but it is not your story. It is the result of believing false stories and having a “I am bad” mental filter. Join me for the next 10 days and I would be happy to give you input on your answers. Send them to me using the contact form at the end of this post for free no-obligation advice. Details of my online therapy packages can be found on Good luck on your journey to the new you! Dr Nicholas Jenner

Day 1: Giving Up Judgment

Self-esteem is a quiet and unshakeable sense of satisfaction that comes from recognising and appreciating our existing worth and choosing to love and grow. Self-esteem is not judgement, comparison or competitive.

How might you appreciate yourself when you are imperfect, are mistreated or compare less favourably to others? What would be the positive consequences of appreciating yourself more? 

Escaping the habit of unhealthy judgement is going to take practice and discipline. People with low self-esteem are usually very judgmental. Judging other people, co-workers, partners, ex-partners people in the media, news and the list goes on. Worse still, is how they often judge themselves.

Your task is to observe yourself without evaluation. Notice how you slip into judgment about your behaviour, feelings, experiences, etc. What happens if you try to push these judgments away? How does it feel to observe yourself without labels or a picture of yourself and “wrong” or “bad”. If you found it difficult to let go of evaluations, how does that feel? What would you like to do about it? 

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Dr. Nicholas Jenner, a therapist, coach, and speaker, has over 20 years of experience in the field of therapy and coaching. His specialty lies in treating codependency, a condition that is often characterized by a compulsive dependence on a partner, friend, or family member for emotional or psychological sustenance. Dr. Jenner's approach to treating codependency involves using Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a treatment method that has gained widespread popularity in recent years. He identifies the underlying causes of codependent behavior by exploring his patients' internal "parts," or their different emotional states, to develop strategies to break free from it. Dr. Jenner has authored numerous works on the topic and offers online therapy services to assist individuals in developing healthy relationships and achieving emotional independence.

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