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Day 1: Giving Up Judgment

Self-esteem is a quiet and unshakeable sense of satisfaction that comes from recognising and appreciating our existing worth and choosing to love and grow. Self-esteem is not judgement, comparison or competitive.

How might you appreciate yourself when you are imperfect, are mistreated or compare less favourably to others? What would be the positive consequences of appreciating yourself more? 

Escaping the habit of unhealthy judgement is going to take practice and discipline. People with low self-esteem are usually very judgmental. Judging other people, co-workers, partners, ex-partners people in the media, news and the list goes on. Worse still, is how they often judge themselves.

Your task is to observe yourself without evaluation. Notice how you slip into judgment about your behaviour, feelings, experiences, etc. What happens if you try to push these judgments away? How does it feel to observe yourself without labels or a picture of yourself and “wrong” or “bad”. If you found it difficult to let go of evaluations, how does that feel? What would you like to do about it?